Traditional Chinese Wedding Info
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This information is useful if you want to find out what you need to follow for a traditional Chinese wedding ceremony.
Chinese wedding history you may want to know:
- Ancient Chinese thought that evening is the "luckiest" time to get married.
- Traditiona Chinese wedding needs to have "six" steps.
1. Distributing cake to relatives before getting married
a). You should distribute the cake in the order of oldest relatives to youngest relatives, as well as the closest relatives to the further relationship relatives.
b). There are 3 sets you may consider, 4 different kinds of cake in a set, six in a set, or 8 in a set. You should distribute two sets to each relative.
c). Distributing cake to relatives means you are respecting their loves.
2. Traditional hair combing procedures:
a). You need to determine a "lucky" time and find someone "good luck" or "who has a good life" to help you with this.
b). What you need to prepare are: Hair comb set and rice ball sugar soup.
c). You must use a new comb, and find someone very lucky, who has many children and grandchildren. Her parent and grand-parent should also be alive as well.
d). The hair comb set should be available in the Chinese wedding store or you can inquiry our website about it.
3. What are "Three books" and "Six Morale"?
A). 3 Books means
a). engagement book that the groom's family gives to the bride's family before they get married.
b). Gift book that lists all the gifts and types and quantities.
c). the book that gives to the bride during the wedding ceremony.
B). 6 morales
a). The middle person who hook up the groom and bride will go to the groom's family, groom's family gives a gift to the bride's family and the gift set has 30 different kinds.
b). If the bride's family agrees the engagement, they will write the bride's full name and birth date and time on a paper and give it to the groom's family. The groom's family will ask fortune teller if they are a matching couple based on their birthday.
c). Engagement party
d). Groom's family needs to give the gifts to the groom's family to complete the engagement ceremony. Groom's family will ask two or four of the bride's relatives together with the middle person to carry the gift and money to the bride's house to complete the engagement ceremony.
e). Pick a lucky date for the wedding ceremony. This is usually determined by the groom's family, then prepare the wedding book and gift to the bride's family. Once the bride's family accepted, then the wedding cremony date is set.
f). During the wedding ceremony day, the groom and the middleman and their family and friends goes to the bride's house to pick up the bride. Before the groom goes to the bride's house, he should go to the bride's ancient's temple first, then pick up the bride and go back to the groom'house. The wedding ceremony starts.
4. What kind of gifts the groom's family should prepare before the wedding ceremony?
b). cake: usually 50kg
c). Dry food: such as albalone, mushroom, dry oyster, shark fin, fish stomach, etc. This should be either 4 kinds a set, 6 kinds a set, or 8 kinds a set.
d). Two pair of chicken (two male and two female), 3-5g of pork, Fish
e). Two coconuts
f). Four wine
g). 4 kinds of dry fruit: dry logan, dry Leechi, walnut, peanut with crust.
h). fresh fruits
i). four different color of candy: ice sugar, orange cake, melon candy
j). Tea, sesame
k). A box filled with lotus seed, sesame, red bean, green bean, walnut, dry longon, red envelop, cash, gold jewelry, a pair of gold bracelet, a pair of "fai Cheung"(red paper written in good words)
l). Groom's family prepare 12kg of rice, 3.2kg of sugar which gives to the bride's family to make rice ball sugar soup.
5. What kinds of gift the bride's family needs to prepare for the wedding ceremony?
a). half of the gifts from the groom's family
c). fresh fruit
d). dry lotus cake, taro, grava
e). red head tower
f). long pant
g). a pair of shoes
h). ginger, chinese cake
i). cash for the groom's family
j). One coconut
6. How to set the bed for the couple?
a). After the wedding ceremony date is set, several days before the wedding they need to find a very luck man to move the bed to the appropriate place. The "appropriate place" needs to be determine by the fortune teller based on the matches of groom's and bride's birth date.
b). The bed cannot face to the desk, closet, or sharp corner
c). The find a lady who has many kids and grand kids to fix the bed sheet, then put the fresh fruit, dry leechy, red bean, and red envelop on the bed.
d). After the bed and bedding are set, no one can sit on the bed especially the widow, people who are divorced, etc. But you can let the babies or yong kids to play on the bed.
7. A day before the wedding ceremony:
a). the bride's family needs to prepare several gifts and deliver to the groom's family. The quantity of the gifts mean the wealthness of the bride's family. The gifts should not include any jewelry but the below:
- rock sugar
- 72 set of clothes.
8. Traditional red tower with the qipao
a). Bride should find a 3 ft square red tower to cover the head when wearing with qipao or kwa.
9. What needs to be aware when the bride goes into the groom's home?
a). Groom's parent can't be sitting in the living room seeing the bride and groom going into the house. The groom's parent should wait until the bride and groom goes into the house, then come out from another room to the living room to meet the wedding couple.
b). Then the groom and bride first face to the sky and pray, then pray in front of the passed away ancient's photo, then the couple should knee down in front of the groom's parent, pour two cups of tea and give it to the groom's parent. Groom's parent should then say some good words to the couple, and give some jewelry or gifts to the bride. After the bride takes the jewelry or gift, she should wear it on immediately and thanks to the groom's parent. After this, the couple should pour the tea to other older relatives in the order of the cloest relatives to the further relatives.
10. After wedding ceremony:
a). Three days after the wedding ceremony, the wife should follow her husband and go back to the wife's parent's house with some gifts and BBQ pig.
b). In the ancient Chinese, after the daughter is married, going back to the parent's house 3 days after wedding may be the last time going back to her parent's house, so this is very important for the daughter.
c). The husband should prepare the following and bring them to the wife's parent's house:
- BBQ pig
- Two boxes of cake
- A pair of Wine
- Two Sugar Crane
- A pair of chicken
- Two baskets of fruit
- green onion
- Two boxes of noodle
- Pork stomach and Pork (2kg each)
Format of Chinese wedding invitation card:
Special situation of format of Chinese wedding invitation card:
1. Invitation sent by the couple:
2. The elder brother or elder sister of the couple who send the invitation card
a). The format should be the same as sending by parent. Only how you (elder brother or sister) calls the bride and groom in the card are different. If it is sent by parent you should call the groom "my son" or the bride "my daughter". If the card is sent by the elder brother or sister then you should call the groom "my brother" or the bride "my sister".
3. If the wedding ceremony and wedding banquet will be held in the same place, then the format of the invitation card can be:
4. If the groom or the bride's either parent is not alive, then you can send the invitation by you and your fiance's name, or send it by an elder relative.
5. If either parents is divorced, then you can use the below format to send the invitation card:
Format on the invitation card envelop for your reference: